eternal you and fatherhood

one that endures and never seems to age

i found out i was going to be father in early april. my wife texted me a photo of her positive pregnancy test while I was at work. first thought was wow. i left work early to go celebrate with my wife and it so happened that i had an advance copy of fiddlehead’s stellar second album between the richness. during that drive home, the album’s fourth track ‘eternal you’ hit me like a ton of bricks. the song itself is about lasting friendships within the passing of time but it’s the end of the song where pat flynn just plainly speaks about how he hopes his new son has a friendship like he did with ryan: “one that endures and never seems to age.” it was just one of those weird serendipitous ways that music can connect with anything. i’ve been experiencing a lot of different emotions over the last few months - pride, excitement, fear. i think about my own life, my own relationships, how my father raised me and i hope i can be that same father to my little boy. and i hope he also experiences a friendship that endures as well. so yeah, little ivan beringer will be arriving in late december. i can’t wait to share my passions with him, already looking forward to digging through records together and talking sneakers. but i’m also looking forward to seeing what interests he discovers and what he’s gonna teach me. and when it all gets a little too overwhelming for me I have ‘eternal you’ to center me.

wow.